Women and counselling and psychotherapy
While some studies suggest that the majority of women, if given a preference, will choose to see a female therapist, we also know that there are other women who prefer or need to see a male therapist.
I feel fortunate that since I was a teenager many women have found me easy to talk with and since entering the counselling and psychotherapy profession at the beginning of this century, I have come to more deeply understand why some women find counselling and psychotherapy more progressive with a male therapist.
The most common reasons women work with me at my online and face-to-face practices include:
- past abuse that was carried out by a mother or other significant female figure
- recent conflict or abuse by a woman or female partner
- women who are in a relationship with a man who has sexual issues or difficulties like porn addictions, low sex drive or erectile dysfunction (ED) and has her own need to explore these issues
- a significant loss of a male voice in the woman’s life (for example, a father died or became unavailable when the woman was young)
- the woman holds a view that men are more straight talking or straightforward in their communication than some women are
- wanting to challenge past and/or present negative relationships with male figures in life by having a respectful and non-judgemental professional space to engage with a man in these dialogues.
There is common agreement that female communications are more emotionally focused than men’s. Women also find it easier to talk about feelings and emotions with other females whether those women are in friendship groups, families or other social networks. However, some women, like men, find it hard to engage in this way or have issues that need more appropriate professional support than family or friends can offer.
One-to-one therapy is then an obvious space for such dialogues to be had. Since it’s not always so easy to find the right male therapist (there really are far fewer men in this profession), an online video-chat based practice like mine offers a good way for women in any location to gain access to working with a responsive, professional, registered and accredited male therapist.
Counselling and other therapy with me is a confidential and non-judgemental process.
I know it can feel like a big deal to make the first step into therapy but I’ll do my best to help you feel comfortable right from your first contact with me.
Here are some questions that women seeking therapy typically ask.
‘WILL I HAVE TO WAIT TO BOOK A SESSION?’
The side bar of any page of this site (on mobile phones, this information shows at the end of the page). will generally have information about my availability. However, even if I’m fully booked do please contact me if you’d like to work with me as I might know that a space is coming up soon but I’m not yet able to advertise it.
‘WHAT IF I WANT TO BOOK A SESSION?’
I’m happy for people to send me an email or a text to make initial contact. I’m also happy to take a phone call (if I’m free) or for you to leave a message on my confidential business phone number 07934 879 990. Whichever way you contact me, you can find out a little more about whether online video-chat might be a good way to work together.
Having worked for many years with men, women and couples – face-to-face and via online video-chat – I would say that if you are comfortable using FaceTime, WhatsApp or Skype as generic platforms, then it can also be a great way to do therapy. And these days, freezes and breakdowns of the Internet, which can be annoying, are thankfully infrequent. In 12 years of using this sort of technology for therapy I have never had to abandon a session mid-way through.
Online counselling, psychotherapy and sex therapy for men, women and couples